What makes your eye twitch as a parent?
Nov 09, 2020
by Aubrey Page, Collaborator
Sometimes you feel like you're spinning in circles. You keep trying new parenting tactics, but you hit road blocks. And then that one thing happens. The thing that makes your eye twitch.
Maybe for you it's lying. Maybe for you it's disrespect. Maybe it's sibling fights. We all have the thing. The thing that sends you from 0 to 100 in 2.5 seconds flat.
When we are in the moment we feel like it's the thing that our kid is the worst at, but when we are able to step away we can see it's the thing that impacts us the most. Whether it reminds us of our past or happens to be a message we got about parenting that makes us feel like we are bad parents if our kids do this. Either way, it is about us. Not them.
For me, this is the hardest part of parenting. I want to hold my kids accountable for every feeling I have. Explain to myself that it's because they do x that I yell. Or because they won't do x that I took away whatever. Realistically, it's on me. I have even gone to therapy to handle a few feelings I was having in the moment of parenting escalations.
So what I have learned is when it is that frustrating, I need to take a step back and walk away. I need to go reset in my room and come back when I'm ready to be calmer and more rational. The side benefit of this is that I am modeling good choices for my kids.
What is the thing that makes your eye twitch?
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